This 1950s or '60s Baume & Mercier watch has a sad story behind it that of course turns somewhat ridiculous when in my hands. Basically, my grandfather was born in Warsaw and fled to Russia when the Nazis invaded Poland in 1939. My bubbe evacuated Minsk when the Nazis invaded the Soviet Union. Both wound up in the Ural Mountains. They got married, and my dad was born in Magnitgorsk after the war. When he was less than a month old, the family left Russia to find my grandfather's family. No one was alive, Jews were killed on a regular basis in Poland, and so they joined the tide of other refugees and lived in displaced persons camps for five years until they came to the US.
While living in the DP camps, my grandparents befriended another couple, Norm and Helen. With no blood relatives, they became family to each other. Norm and Helen eventually relocated to South Haven, MI where they owned an orchard. Happily, my family wound up not far away in Chicago, and my dad spent many happy summers in the fresh air with Norm and Helen. Fast forward 50 or so years, in preparation for her own death, Helen began giving her jewelry to my bubbe, including this watch. To me, this is horribly morbid, but apparently a common Jewish practice.
Once my bubbe has the watch, she becomes obsessed with giving it to me. Except that it is not my style and I don't particularly want it, so I repeatedly refuse it. When Bubbe semi-accepts that I am not going to ever wear the watch, she decides that I need to hock it. I take it to some estate jewelry buyers in both Chicago and New York. All say the same thing: I'm not the only person who thinks the style is dated, and they can't sell such an item. It is worth only the gold from which it is made. The best offer I get is $200.
Bubbe, however, is convinced that it is a priceless object d'arte and is very displeased with what I report.
"Don't let them cheat you!" she intones in her Eastern European accent.
Dutifully, I continue schlepping it to different jewelers until I accidentally overwind the watch and break it. Since the value of the watch is in the gold and not the time-telling, this appears to have no effect on its value, but I use it as an excuse to stop my aimless wanderings, although I consider selling it and lying about the price. The watch thus sits on my nightstand for another few years.
In the past few weeks, I see a number of ads for an estate jewelry buyer in New York City. On Sunday, I decide to email them and see if they are interested in the watch. Yesterday afternoon an extremely chipper woman calls me and asks me to bring it in. I call my sister and tell her whatever I get for the watch, I'll share with her 50-50, and she tells me to just sell it already. I decide that I am going to give my portion to charity. Originally, I thought Planned Parenthood, but Husband suggests that I select a Jewish organization, which makes sense.
At the end of the day, no matter what the watch sells for, it will never undo the loneliness and torment suffered by Norm and Helen as they rebuilt their shattered lives in America, and celebrated their success with a gold Baume & Mercier watch. Reflecting on this saga on Sept. 11 and the day before Rosh Hashanah 5768, it is obvious that they already paid the highest price.
You've passed on the legacy by telling us the story of the watch. These objects aren't really important -- what is important is that the people giving them have someone to give them to...that act of giving affirms our connections in the world. Oh shoot, your story has made me all sentimental. I have to go now.
ReplyDeleteI agree with working girl. It is not the object - it is the memories. I am sure it brought them joy to be able to afford a gold watch after so many years of torment.
ReplyDeleteL'Shanah Tovah Tikatevu
Dont sell it! It musnt take up that much space in your jewelry box. Perhaps you could donate it to the Museum of Tolerance at the Weisenthall Center (I spelled that very, very wrong) out here in Los Angeles!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great story!
ReplyDeleteI rather like the watch.
I like the Jewish Charity thing.
ReplyDeleteAnd for some reason blogger doesn't want me to comment on your blog. I hope that is fixed soon.
I did sell it, and the money will go to an organization providing social services to impoverished elderly Holocaust survivors in Poland. The watch itself was from after the war, so I didn't think it would have worked for a museum unless they have an exhibit on how people managed to create normal lives for themselves after the Holocaust, something that utterly amazes me and yet happened with almost all the survivors.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I think the cash to help survivors is the best way to honor Helen and Norman. Their memories can be preserved through oral history, the record for the donation, or even this blog post. Still, I was very choke up after it was sold, like a final chapter was closed on two lives, even though that is not the case. A watch is just an object.
I remember you talking about this watch, but it was a long time ago.
ReplyDeleteIt's not just Jews who morbidly prepare for their own deaths by giving away their jewelry - it's all grandmas. My crazy old bat of a grandma (a gentile, I might add) has been giving away her jewelry for at least 5 years now in preparation for "the end."
ReplyDeleteSteph
Holocaust survivors may appear to lead normal lives outwardly, but I'm sure that many of them are deeply scarred emotionally, and normalcy is something never to be achieved.
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