Over the years, I discovered something very interesting. So-called "pro-life" politicians - who love telling me that their religious morals are superior to mine - don't actually have much understanding or respect for life. First, they seem to believe that pregnancy is something that a woman just does for a little while with absolutely no consequences. They don't seem to understand that pregnancy is devastating to a woman's body. At the very least, the changes in hormone levels affect everything from how a woman feels to how she thinks. Pregnancy can cause everything from nausea to swollen ankles to diabetes. It can force a woman who needs to work to not be able to perform her job, putting her (and her family) at economic risk. And while less common today than in the past, pregnancy can kill a woman. For someone who wants to have a child, these risks are willingly accepted. But to force a woman to endanger her health and possibly life is unreasonable and shows that a politician could care less about the lives of actual women.
On a second level, "pro-life" politicians have suspicious disregard for what it takes to keep a person alive after they are born. Life is not being born and then you are done. Life is sustained at the most basic level through food, shelter, and clothing. Yet "pro-life" politicians are the ones leading the charge to cut support for affordable housing, for heating assistance, and for food stamps. Forget health insurance. It seems that kids with health issues like asthma don't actually need inhalers to help them breathe. It's ironic that someone who claims to care so much for life couldn't care less if a baby starved to death, had chronic untreated health issues, or had no where safe to live.
Beyond the basics to support life, there are the elements of life that give it true meaning beyond mere survival. Oddly enough, "pro-life" politicians don't seem to support aspects of life that make us human. Where's the support for early childhood education? The money to equalize the playing field in elementary and high school education? For financial aid to help low-income kids go to college? Hmmm....
"Pro-life" politicians are not pro-life at all, but merely anti-self-determination. The fact is that politicians who understand the need to legal and accessible abortion are also the same ones who support programs that truly are pro-life. They respect individual decision-making, sex ed programs that help people make informed decisions that prevent unintended pregnancies, and go an extra mile to provide life-saving public programs that in the long run, might actually discourage abortion by providing a safety net for families and children. Pro-choice politicians also recognize that as a woman, I have a right to life, too.
(Go one step beyond voting for pro-choice candidates and tell them to repeal the Hyde Amendment, which prevents federal Medicaid funds from paying for abortion services. Today, on the 35th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, show your support for accessible abortion by signing the "Hyde-30 Years is Enough! petition. Legal abortion is critical for all women, but useless to those who can't afford the procedure. My uterus thanks your support.)
Excellent post, Suzanne. I couldn't agree more.
ReplyDeleteHere, here! Well said, Suzanne!
ReplyDeleteRight on!
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ReplyDeleteOne of the most annoying aspects of the pro-life campaign is that I apparently need protection from myself, lest I shirk my womanly duties and use my brain instead of my uterus... asshats.
You have an agreer in me!
ReplyDeleteThis is my first time passing through your spot. BRILLIANT POST! I'll be visiting more often!
ReplyDeleteI'm just wondering if any of you ladies has ever seen an abortion? I couldn't watch much, but did see a few seconds of one on the internet. It's hellish, little feet and hands hacked off.
ReplyDeleteYes, it's disgusting. And yet people who have never been in the position of considering their options when pregnant are very quick to tell young women to go and do something that we all know will stay with the woman for the rest of her life. You can't destroy your own flesh and blood and live easy.
I'm not expecting this to convince anyone. I'm a woman, a bit of a dinosaur I guess, who refused to have an abortion 35 years ago. I had nothing, absolutely nothing to offer a child in the material sense, but faith, and today I am so proud of my very well educated kid - who's a woman now of course, and who has brought so much love into the world, whose very presence has mended bridges, and who has made a mark that will be remembered long after she passes on.
Yes, I'm pro-life. The only alternative is pro-death. There is nothing in between.
Valerie
Valerie, what you watched was propaganda, pure and simple. Since most abortions take place in the first 8 weeks of gestation, there are no hands and feet to be lopped off. There are no fingernails. If you don't want to understand actual fetal development and base your opinions on scientific fact, that is up to you. However, you are no more pro-life than I am. You are just ignorant of basic facts.
ReplyDeleteI also add that the point of being pro-choice is that we support your personal decision to not have an abortion. No one forced you to live by her morals and values the way you would impose yours on others by insisting that we are "pro-death" when there is not consensus on when life begins and different religions believe different things. Your decision was right for you, and that is wonderful. However, you do not have the right to make that decision for me or accuse me of being "pro-death" when in fact I support everyone's right to a fair start in life.
ReplyDeleteYou guys just don't get it, do you? What I saw was not false. Propaanda it may be, just as your so called "choice" ads are propoganda. So what? facts are facts. What do you think of partial-birth abortion?
ReplyDeleteI don't and never will understand how a woman can KILL her own unborn child.
Furthermore, I have over the years, and particularly when my child was a baby, met many, many women who had had abortions. They would come and admire the baby, then tell me the sad story. "I can't have children due to scar tissue when I had my abortion." This was discussed in a health food store. Over the years, I would hear the same story. I'm a good listener, and a mom, and maybe that's why they spoke to me, all walks of life, all professions.
All I will say is, I never met a woman who could look me in the eye and say: "What I did was a good thing." There was always the regret, the sadness, and even mental health issues which followed them into their autumn years.
Don't get so sucked into the politically correct culture of death that you destroy your own souls. And I'm not speaking religiously (though I am a religious person). I just feel so sorry for women who's been conned into this. A friend of mine had an abortion at 18 - she's now nearly 50. She told me with tears in her eyes how much she regretted being conned into it out of fear for the future, by "helpful" feminists!
No, ladies, it's not like having a tooth pulled, nor is an abortion akin to a surgical procedure relating to another organ. The Fetus is a human being, not a liver or a kidney, or even a dog or a cat. (Though I am also an animal lover and I veer closer to vegetarianism than meat eating.)
I know I won't convince you. You have learned well all the pro-death statements to make. You're all so good at that. Thank God your mothers decided you were worth having, that you didn't get cut up before birth!
Valerie
Sorry, but I do get it. Irrational plays of emotion (how would I like it if my mom aborted me? I wouldn't have an opinion, as I wouldn't be here and that's how it goes. I don't even understand a question like that as it makes no sense.) and your one case study are pretty unconvincing, especially since I know many women who had abortions and years later continue to feel nothing but relief and gratitude.
ReplyDeleteTake a science course. Then we'll talk.
Aight, I'm jumping in.
ReplyDeleteSuzanne, this was incredibly well-stated.
Valerie, you saw something on the internet? Why would you believe it? I can film whatever I want and make a video depicting whatever I choose and post it on the internet. So can anyone. If you had seen this procedure in person, then you'd have a decent basis for argument.
Another point about all the people that have expressed regret at having abortions 30+ years ago. No, having an abortion is not an easy decision and I'm sure there is regret. However, often times there is more regret when the mother is killed during childbirth, or the child is killed due to abuse and regret. Also, medical procedures have changed quite a bit. Gone are the wire hangers. Nowadays an injection or a pill will prevent a baby from being left in a dumpster behind a motel.
Great post and I LOVED the title!
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